My hair is long, it needs a cut. The red henna is fading and grey can be seen.
My eyebrows are bushy so I try to give them a pluck.
My eyelids have wrinkles and the eyeshadow falls into the creases.
I get spots, not like a pubescent teenager, but the odd one on my chin and nose.
My neck sags and with it a double-chin forms.
My upper arms flap like bats,
And my finger joints have painful stiff nodules.
My breasts droop slightly and one is better then the other.
Symmetrical boobs are a myth, but I still want them.
My belly gets bloated.
I’m too lazy to shave but I try to do it anyway.
I’ve cellulite, thread vines and hairy hobbit toes.
I’ve only ever had one pedicure in my life, this was on my wedding day.
I get grumpy.
When I’m tired I get really grumpy. When I’m drunk I swear a lot.
My heart feels damaged and I worried it will never heal.
At times I need to run, or hide, in order to escape the things that tries to hurt me.
Stress has completely exhausted me.
I still have grief…
Still.
It has stripped me bare.
I get so angry at the world and so fucking upset. I still can’t get my head round the unfairness of death. It’s random and cruel. It brings out the worst in me as it’s still overwhelming. It’s a never ending ticking time bomb, lying in wait for that trigger, for me to be at my most venerable.
Then boom!
Afterwards I look at my naked soul and see myself for whom I’ve become. The grey, the wrinkled, the bloated and the sagging included.
All of it.
And it’s not all bad.
I also have long hair and the flecks of natural gold & ageing silver light up in the sun.
My eyebrows are fair, so almost invisible.
I have big brown eyes and the skin around them creases when I laugh.
I’m blessed with good skin.
My arms are strong, and I’m still able to create art and stories with my hands.
My breasts are beautiful, and I’m curvy all over.
I’ve blonde hair on the small of my back that is light and fluffy.
My grumpiness is always replaced with a smile.
My heart is still beating and I love others with every inch of my soul.
I still have grief…
Yes, this part is true.
But it has also made me resilient. Death has not only shown me the fragility of life but also how precious it is too. I can have a hard exterior, but my emotions are there, just below the surface, ready to express my kindness.
I now value hope after feeling absolutely none, and I now strive onwards, with purpose, when I once felt there was no point.
I’m an ageing woman who has lost so much, but with my silver streaks, broken heart and everything laid bare I’ve so much more to give.
I am widow, hear me roar!
Quite simply I miss you, Simon
Love your Hermit
X x x